Intelligence: the capacity for learning, reasoning, understanding, and similar forms of mental activity; aptitude in grasping truths, relationships, facts, meanings, etc.
Dating can be seen as a form of art. It takes time to gain the experience to know exactly what you are looking for in a mate. Like anything else in life, the more we practice the better we become at what we do. In this case, practicing your communication skills and being able to articulate your wants and goals in life are good starts. Also, opening up to others and getting them to open up to you and being a good listener are all just a few examples of what I like to refer to as Dating Intelligence. I feel everyone deserves the opportunity to find someone who is the right fit for them and to be happy. With that being said, you have to be able to look at every situation with an open mind and be willing to do your homework and most importantly, don’t F**k it up!
Since a very young age, I have had the opportunity to learn a lot about women and all the things that make them so exciting and intriguing as compared to us guys. For you see, I was the only male in a female dominated household- which included my mother and two sisters. I was the middle child and, let me tell you, it was definitely always a three ring circus. From the grace and poise of my mom, who ran the show better than PT Barnum ever could. The craziness of my older sister, who was an elite social butterfly and master manipulator. To the ups/downs and mood swings of my little sister, in to which, I have compared her to the most convoluted mental patient in Bellevue Hospital. I saw it all, and thanks to them this taught me how to adapt within the female oriented world. I felt like an anthropologist at times studying the female behavior up close and personal. Getting a feel and understanding of how they behave in private and social situations and what their wants and expectations were. Over time, through this observation, I learned how to read and get a better understanding of the common, to the most complex, psychology of a woman. I became well versed and in tune with women and it intrigued me to find this deep and insightful knowledge that would become invaluable to me as I got older. What’s the saying, “knowledge is power”? (Well I’m here to tell you, first hand gentlemen, that knowing how to act around women is very powerful). Generally speaking, in educating yourself on how to sync up with a woman’s wants and needs, you’ll learn how to become a better friend, listener and lover to her. You’ll learn how to interact and communicate easier with women and over time develop a better relationship with them.
Hi, my name is Christopher Louis, and welcome to my initial blog posting. My goal is to share and write about the many facets of why guys are idiots when it comes to dating and having relationships with women. Giving you my perspective on different subjects relating to areas that all guys need help with in regards to interacting with women. Also, showing you how to handle certain situations in which guys don’t communicate or react to well. From courting a woman, to having intimacy issues, or even grappling with your umpteenth argument. I can help you ladies understand why we men do the things that we do and why we behave in certain ways at times. Now ladies, I’m not saying that everything we do is on us. You all know that you have your own share of challenges that we have to compete with as well. But, there is one thing that we can all agree on and that is balancing the relationship scale is not an easy task. As the old Rob Base hit song says, “It takes two to make a thing go right!”
So what makes me the self proclaimed Guru of solving all these issues, you’re wondering? That’s a great question. Well, I’m certainly not a doctor or a person with a license or PhD. I’m not even a guy who studied psychology as a major in college. I’m just a guy who’s been in the game long enough with plenty of experiences to share and is very secure with who is he is. I’ve learned how important it is to be a stand up guy who loves interacting and being with women. Having the understanding and awareness on when to act and when to just listen. I’m a guy who wants to show others how to be open and to make better decisions. Especially when it comes to making mistakes and communicating better with women. Oh, and believe me, I have had my fair share of epic fails on both subjects. (Which I will be sharing a lot with you in future blogs).
There have been many times over the years in which I have been in certain situations where I’m either observing or connecting with the opposite sex. Thus, helping me give the best possible advice to my guy friends on dating, solving problems with their significant others, or just being a great wing-man. Even women ask me for my opinion on how to read between the lines when a guy does something off putting. My intuition, on most subjects pertaining to these topics, has been spot on and, quite frankly, I just love helping people come together.
Within the first few months of the blog, I will share more of who I am with you in my writing and give you raw honesty. We’ve all had our share of wins and losses in dating and it doesn’t exclude me from that group. I want to share my point of view and gain your trust and interest in what I have to say. My posts will be geared more towards women than men, but I will sometimes give both sides of the story. I want to start a “Q and A” within each blog. So please send in questions or concerns that you would like to have answered. I will pick and answer one of your questions every posting. Your questions will be a big part of what I am trying to accomplish here. I will share my opinion and thoughts on how to handle every situation the best I can. I’m also open to your feedback as well.
I want to make this site a fun and exciting place to visit. Where you will get a better understanding of how we men tick and how you can make your dating life more enjoyable. I look forward to all the exciting possibilities that this blog will bring. Thank you so much for listening. Cheers!